Everyone has a love language and how it speaks to you might be different then your partner. Its important to know yours but equally important to recognize your love ones. Once you know your partner's love languages you want to intentionally speak their language so their love tank is full to the overflow. No empty love banks here.
Inspired by the Five Languages of Love book below is my latest segment on Great Day Houston where I give creative ideas in expressing each language. Though time didn't allow us to get to all the ideas I listed below segment written inspirations on each language. You're welcome. :)
If you are having trouble viewing segment click on link below to go to Great Day site and watch video.
So right after my segment there was a fun 30 sec bonus moment with Debra that is not up on the web so I filmed my television version of it. i apologize in advance for the poor quality. :)
Words of Affirmation - authentically building them up.
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
- notes left for them to find in the morning. ie by the coffee pot saying as much as i love coffee i love you more, on the bathroom mirror saying your face is the most beautiful thing i've ever seen or on their steering wheel saying you are the driving force behind our family. surprising is half the fun!
- in a room of beautiful or dynamic people you can take a moment to whisper how wonderful your partner is.
- 365 jar of compliments for your love open one everyday throughout the year. I got a old rustic lantern to use as a jar...loved it!
Quality Time - being present in time spent together.
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
- when going out to dinner check your phone in at the door. if you have kids leave babysitter the restaurants number. no status or tweet is as important as being present with your partner.
- a question book. taking the time to get to know your partner on levels you might not have ever known. my personal favorite is 4000 questions to get to know anyone and everyone
- its not about how extravagant the moment is with your partner its about the quality time spent. do something adventurous for 2 hrs being totally present and authentic to each other. go for a bike ride, go to the carnival or take a drive to your nearest body of water just to take a walk on the beach, lake or whatever.
Receiving of Gifts - the thoughtfulness behind the gift.
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
Personalized gifts. a photo printed on canvas. a necklace with your date inscribed. my amazing friends brandi and kelly with bueno bueno have the most amazing key necklaces that you can inscribe the date and names on it.
- Knowing their favorites (candy, perfume, lipstick, game tix) and creating a scavenger hunt for them to find.
- Coming home with flowers even if they are discount ones, its more about you thinking of them and remembering them.
Acts of Service - relieving the pressure off of the person
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
- Picking up everyday toiletries when they are about to run out. I.E deodorant, shampoo, toothpaste.
- Breakfast in bed or just period.
- Changing the oil in a car and then taking it to get cleaned.
- Weeding the yard
Physical Touch - its the feeling of being near.
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
- Sitting on the couch but making sure there's a blanket covering the both of you will force you to snuggle. At the movie theater left up the arm rest in between the two of you and sit closer.
- Activities that encourage hand holding; walks in the park or going rollerskating.
- Create a spot in your home where you designate it the hug spot and just like the mistletoe forces you to kiss under it so does the hug spot.
But the crescendo of all ideas is a love language teepee...
- cool looking teepee and flowers (receiving of gifts)
- a journal of love letters or love notes hanging from the inside (words of affirmation)
- the close quarters with blankets create intimacy (physical touch)
- dinner made (acts of service)
- question book and small space (quality time)
Finding the love of your life is a gift, keeping it forever is commitment and work.
There is nothing to be compared to having an amazing life with someone that loves you for better or worse, for richer or better, in sickness and in health, to death will you part.
Fight for it, Invest in it, Treasure it.
So much love to you.